Remember, grief is not linear. You will go back and forth between all the phases of anger and denial and bargaining and depression and acceptance. Sometimes in one day. Sometimes in one hour.
In addition to being named #15 best grief book of all time, the book has been named the #10 best grief audiobook of all time.
There are many kinds of deep and painful losses that fall into the category of what’s called disenfranchised grief, and the loss of a pet is one of them.
Today, I’m pleased and honored to share a wonderful guest post by Bryan Jung. He is an inspiration, following his passion to help those who have lost a parent as a child or teenager.
The holidays can be overwhelming for many of us, especially if we are grieving.
Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep by Mary Elizabeth Frye is a beautiful bereavement poem that I hope you’ll enjoy reading.
People are suffering from all kinds of grief, from illness and deaths unrelated to the pandemic, to terrible natural disasters, to the polarization in our country and more.
My heart goes out to everyone in this difficult time. It’s important to feel connected – we are all in this together, and together we will get through it.
Finding a qualified mental health professional for support is more important than ever. You might be wondering, how do I find the right therapist?
The dead are not distant or absent. They are alongside us. -John O’Donohue
So many of us are grieving, for all kinds of losses, on so many levels. We’re all finding ways to adapt to a new normal in the midst of the ongoing pandemic, changing the way we interact, communicate, and offer support to each other as we grieve. Thea Wigglesworth...
Grief is not linear, and there is no timetable.
My heart goes out to everyone in this difficult time.
As you stumble and stride and stop to gather strength along the way towards healing, be compassionate toward yourself.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
The only way out is through.
In helping others, even when in the midst our own grief, we can help ourselves.
Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.
So many of us are experiencing grief. The world as we knew it is gone. We don’t know what the new normal will look like.
My heart goes out to everyone. It’s important to feel connected – we are all in this together, and together we will get through it. Never lose hope.
Do you have a running loop racing through your mind? It’s a natural response because we wish we could change the outcome.
When we experience any kind of traumatic loss it feels like we are in an alternate reality. Like we are in a place of in-between, pleading and praying this isn’t true.
A friend recently shared this poem with a profoundly beautiful message about death and grief and love.
You Are Not Alone is 2019 Readers’ Favorite Silver Medal Winner in Non-Fiction – Grief/Hardship Genre
We are honored to receive this prestigious award.
It can be hard to know what to say. So I’ve put together this basic guide for grievers and for those who want to help.
There’s always a couch and a lamp and a plant of some sort. Across from that will sit one or two chairs with plush arms and pillows to hold onto. Next to the chairs will sit a small end table. On the table will be a box of tissues and a few ballpoint pens. The walls...
We are honored to be recognized for the 2018 INDIES Book of the Year Award
You Are Not Alone is Award-Winning Finalist in Health: Psychology /Mental Health, 2019 International Book Awards
We are honored to be recognized for this award.
If you need support, here’s what you can do when you don’t know what to do.
Dear Grief,I am writing to recount your recent stay.On November 1st, 2016 you arrived at my door. You had come for brief visits on other occasions, but this time you stood with suitcase in hand. You had moved into the homes of many great souls that year: David...
Dearest Tess, Remember writing this in your diary a few months before you left? Do you ever wonder when you look at the sky at night that there is a planet out there just like ours? And you are just like you. And you are actually looking back at...
I often think that people should be like trees - if you could find a way to cut inside, you could see rings, showing what the person had weathered - the seasons, the losses, the gains. If I looked in my rings, what story would they tell? There I am at 16,...
Let us agree for now that we will not say the breaking makes us stronger or that it is better to have this pain than to have done without this love.
An inevitable grief follows love. Yet we risk that grief, over and over – because we have no choice but to love each other.
A free, 5-part video series to shed light on some of the feelings, thoughts and struggles that are common for grievers.
When Jim died right before the holidays, I felt as if I would never be able to get through the holiday season that began a month later.
Returning to work after loss may be one of the biggest hurdles you will ever overcome. You may think you are ready and find you are not.
We are all interconnected at every age. We can best help children grieve if we address our inner child who is grieving, too.
When we are steeped in grief, it’s often difficult to find comfort in anything. We forget to step outside to watch a bee pollinate a flower, a riverbed flow to the ocean.
Grief is not linear – it moves back and forth, needing only one tiny flicker-flash of scent or song or sunrise to bring you back years to one short moment holding an eternity.
May is a time of celebrating mothers, and for many of us who have lost our moms, it can bring our grief bubbling to the surface. My aging mother is still alive, but in poor health.
When I discovered I was pregnant, I was thirty one and a publishing executive and I was at least seven years into being banished from my mother’s life, a cycle that started when I was a toddler. When I didn’t meet my mother’s expectations she stopped talking to me,...
She was there for many of my firsts - first breath, first smile, first tooth. In the harbor where we lived at the end of a canal right next door to the volunteer fire department that was my father’s second home, she taught me how to swim, promising me a boat all of my...
When I was six months old, my mother thought my tear ducts were clogged. She took me to the doctor to see why I never cried. She was assured that my tear ducts worked fine. I just had no reason to cry. I was loved. I have felt her love my whole life and continue to...
It’s important to acknowledge our loved ones often offer us signs. When we are open to the signs, the experience can be incredibly comforting.
Comedic writer Larry Tadlock writes about being in Santorini, Greece when he hears the news of his sister’s death.
When a loved one leaves us, there are always songs that will transport us back to a loving moment. Songs we shared with loved ones who have passed are ways we stay connected to them.
Valentine’s Day can be especially difficult when we have lost someone we love. I am thinking of all of you who have suffered a loss and are grieving.
I felt as if I would never be able to get through the holiday season. Eventually I was able to feel the joy and sparkle again, but it took time.
The Window of Tolerance helps us become aware of our feelings instead of reacting. This article explores how our trauma can cause anxiety or depression.
I would never leave you. The core of me, the essence, the love that never leaves, was always there. Heart wisdom for grieving. Listen to the heart.
When someone we love dies, the grief and fear we can experience keeps our bodies in continuous survival mode. This feeling may last a long time.
Many of us have un-saids with loved ones who have died. I hope, as you heal and grow through your own grief, you too will grow in compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.
A loss – the death of someone we love, a divorce, an illness, a job we love, any kind of life-altering loss – we feel like we’ve lost a part of ourselves.
Who’s to say what the definition of family is? Here’s what I think: we have a family we’re born into – but we also have a family we create.
In this piece I talk about the beautiful and comforting signs so many of us receive.
One of my chapters was filmed as part of a series with other writers. This is an excerpt from my upcoming book “You Are Not Alone”…
This is the story of how a little girl protected her heart until she met someone who helped her learn how to trust again..
We are all expressions of the Divine. We are all connected through the divine love and light in each of our hearts. But many of us forget who we truly are, who we came here to be.
I am a healer - a psychotherapist specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. My clinical training is steeped in Western traditions of healing. I am also a seeker. I study Eastern philosophy and energy healing, exploring shamanic practices and ceremonies, exposing myself...
The doctor is holding his hand with tremendous compassion. Looking him right in the eye, just as every dying person deserves. Joining him in his last moment.
After someone we love dies, we often receive meaningful signs, especially in the first few days.
It started with the love of books. The anticipation each week of going to the library, knowing I’d be allowed to check out four new books. It’s how I survived…
When I was 10 years old I opened the front door to my home and, in an instant, my whole world fell apart. In Laura Lentz's online writing group, her prompts drawn from mythology stirred my imagination and led me to write the story of what happened in a...
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- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
1 (800) 273-8255
- National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1 (800) 799-7233
- Family Violence Helpline:
1 (800) 966-6228
- National Hopeline Network:
1 (800) 784-2433
- Self-Harm Hotline:
1 (800) 366-8288
- Planned Parenthood Hotline:
1 (800) 230-7526
- American Association of Poison Control Centers:
1 (800) 222-1222
- Alcoholism & Drug Dependency Hope Line:
1 (800) 622-2255
- National Crisis Line, Anorexia and Bulimia:
1 (800) 233-4357
- GLBT Hotline:
1 (888) 843-4564
- TREVOR Crisis Hotline:
1 (866) 488-7386
- AIDS Crisis Line:
1 (800) 221-7044
- Lifeline Crisis Chat:
(Online live messaging): http://www.crisischat.org/
- Crisis Text Line:
Text “START” TO 741-741
- Veterans Crisis
Live chat https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/,
Call 1-800-273-8255 (press 1)
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