Grief, Anxiety, and the What-ifs and If-onlys
The moments before and the moments right after someone you love dies are etched in your mind with crystal clarity. If you weren’t present when they died, then you will still remember how and when you were told, where and what you were doing. Often our memory becomes...
It’s Okay to Be a Griever
In our society, there is an expectation of trying to keep it together – be stoic, have a stiff upper lip, try to be strong. At Jim’s funeral, I was stoic. Adhering to what I call the unwritten rules of grief: please don’t make a scene, don’t make us...
Heavy by Mary Oliver
One year ago, the world lost a beautiful poet, Mary Oliver. In honor of her, I’d like to share with you a poem that moved me so deeply, I included it in my book. In her poem, Heavy, Mary writes about balancing the heavy weight of grief as we begin to learn how...
Epitaph by Merrit Malloy
How do we make meaning of it all when someone we love dies? When the world seems meaningless and we wonder why? These questions are a natural response as we try to make sense of a great loss. Along the gradual path of grieving, adapting, and accepting a loss in our...
What to Say, What to Do, and How to Help When Someone You Love Is Grieving
When I was newly grieving, one of the most helpful pieces of advice I received came from a close friend. On the day my husband Jim died, she said, “People will say things to you that you won’t believe. Try not to let it bother you. It’s because they don’t know what to...
YOU ARE NOT ALONE is offered in print, audiobook, and Kindle.
Words of Comfort is for anyone who is newly grieving or who is still deeply feeling the loss of someone they lost in the past.
Toolbox Video Series
Learn and practice simple techniques to help you feel calm whenever you are anxious.