by Debbie Augenthaler | Feb 20, 2019 | Coping with Grief
“There is no remedy for love but to love more.” —Henry David Thoreau Let us agree for now that we will not say the breaking makes us stronger or that it is better to have this pain than to have done without this love. Let us promise we will not tell...
by Debbie Augenthaler | Dec 18, 2018 | Coping with Grief
When I lost my husband unexpectedly, I was just like you, looking for a way through. Maybe you feel like you’re never going to feel better again, like you are supposed to be further along. Maybe you feel like you have to keep it together for others. Or like you...
by Debbie Augenthaler | Jul 12, 2018 | Coping with Grief
The instant I hear a few bars of Neil Young singing Harvest Moon (I want to see you dance again) I’m dancing with my husband Jim again, on a warm, late October night in 1996. I glimpse the oh-so-familiar dark brown neatly combed back of head striding ahead of me on...
by Debbie Augenthaler | Nov 11, 2017 | Coping with Grief
Are you feeling anxious, angry, scared, unsettled, or unsafe? With all that is happening in our world today, it’s not surprising if you can choose at least one of these words to describe how you are feeling—if not all of them. You may not be aware of how on...
by Debbie Augenthaler | Oct 2, 2017 | Coping with Grief, The Book: You Are Not Alone
I know you think you listen to me and yes, yes, before you say anything, I know you’re much better at it than you used to be. And I thank you for that. Listen to me. Listen. I am your compass. I am your guide. I hold your love. I hold his love. I am love. I hold pain....
by Debbie Augenthaler | Aug 9, 2017 | Coping with Grief, The Book: You Are Not Alone
My body shuts down the moment Jim dies. Someone hands me a glass of water, and I don’t think I can swallow it. My mouth is dry, tongue swollen, throat closed. My whole body filled with grief and fear – no room for anything else. Later that night, I am alone in...